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I've been reading lots of discussions/arguments in the weddingplans community about wedding budgets. I thought that since they're older threads, I'd post my opinion here instead, for posterity. :)

We really don't have a budget at this point. I'm hoping to keep it under $1000, and I'm pretty sure I'll be able to do that. The people in the weddingplans community were talking about how a "normal" wedding costs about $20,000. As my good friend Cory G. says, "WTF?!?!" I have no idea how people can spend that much money on one day. Well, I can - parents. But besides that, I don't see how anyone would want to pay that much money on a wedding. That said, if I had $20,000 to spend on a wedding without having to worry about anything else (rent, car payments, whatever), I'd probably spend that much. But I'm glad I've got such a small budget to work with. Weddings are about the bride and groom, and a proclamation of how much they love each other. They're kind of like baptisms, in a way: you get up in front of the people you love and proclaim your love for someone. You don't see people wearing a $2000 smock to get dunked in the water - why should you wear a $2000 dress that you're just going to put in a box and forget about after wearing it for eight hours? Our wedding is going to be personal, romantic, and US. That's the most important part. We're going to make everything, from invitations to dresses to favors. And I can't imagine it any other way.

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juancarlos
Aug. 22nd, 2002 03:45 pm (UTC)
$20,000 is a ridiculous amount of money to pay for a wedding. the only thing i can imagine costing a ton of money is feeding everybody. but you can make it a potluck, that's the best. i have a fun wedding suggestion: your wedding should have its own smell. you can buy scented candles or a certain kind of very fragrant flower. then every time you smell that it takes you back to that day which, hopefully, is always a good thing.
rivulet
Aug. 22nd, 2002 03:55 pm (UTC)
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That's a good idea. I should do that! How 'bout... eucalyptus? Mmm.

I think what most people spend their money on is the photographer. Really, everything can cost a lot if you want it to, but even if you want a small wedding, good pictures cost almost $2000. Luckily, I'm going to force my aunt to do the photography. And we're not going to have food besides cake. I wanted a pancake breakfast, but that probably won't happen. (Unless I can get some good catering prices and my venue doesn't cost more than $100!) So I'm lucky that I don't want to spend much - I don't have much!
juancarlos
Aug. 22nd, 2002 04:02 pm (UTC)
I don't know what Eucalyptus smells like but if its yummy, go for it!

I just went to a wedding last weekend where she did most of the stuff herself. She got a lot of us to help out with the food and stuff. She bought a lot of film and had my sister take pictures (she has some experience). I also took a lot of pictures with my digital camera and burned her a wedding album cd. She also bought disposable cameras and left them out as party favors so that she got a lot of different kinds of pictures.

It seems like having an inexpensive wedding would be more fun because you get to be creative coming up with ways to do stuff.
rivulet
Aug. 22nd, 2002 06:03 pm (UTC)
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That's what I figure. I heard somewhere that if you want an untraditional wedding, you don't have to spend nearly as much money on a traditional wedding. I want traditional to a point, but there are lots of aspects that I want more personalized (i.e. invitations designed by Cory, with none of that "Mr. and Mrs. Granholm request your presence" crap, and self-written vows). Even if I had money, though, I wouldn't want to have a traditional wedding.
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