By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
*Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
*Socially, you tend to be a "homebody" preferring your house and yard to faraway places with strange sounding names. This may cause stress if others want to see the world.
*You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
*You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
*You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
*You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
*You have a tendency to be somewhat possessive of favorite people or things. You may demonstrate possessiveness in a variety of ways, all showing a need to feel secure.
*You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
*You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
*You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
*Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
*Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
*In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
*You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
*In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
*You usually hesitate about speaking in front of groups, preferring to talk with individuals.
*You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
KEYS TO BETTER COMMUNICATION
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Patiently draw out personal interests.
Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.
Move casually, informally.
Ask "How" questions to draw out opinions.
Find areas of common interest and involvement.
Provide personal support and assurance.
Start with a personal comment to "break the ice."
Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.
Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.
Take time during explanations.
This section identifies specific talents and behavior that you bring to a personal relationship. In order to cultivate a successful relationship it is vital to be familiar with your interpersonal strengths and weaknesses.
Work hard for everyone's satisfaction.
Supportive of others.
Good at reconciling.
Loyal team player.
An excellent listener.
An excellent listener to the concerns and ideas of others.
Very patient with others.
Calm excited people.
Respect the property of others.
Sincere in what you say and do.
YOUR WANTS AND NEEDS
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
To not respond as emotionally as others might want. This places a premium on you to control your emotions.
Security for now, and in the future.
Identification with your social group.
Activities that may involve friends.
An environment relatively free of conflict.
Scheduled activities with no haphazard or unplanned activity.
Sincerity offered from others.
Recognition for your loyalty.
To feel important, but not be the leader
CHALLENGING PEOPLE FOR YOU
Each of us has types of people with whom we feel an immediate bond and rapport. We also know of personality types with whom we are less likely to "get along." The types of people identified below represent personality types with whom it may be difficult for you to form a long-term satisfying relationship. Review the traits of these challenging personality types and be thoughtful of each as you consider your match selection.
Positive words that describe this type of person:
Words that describe this type of person under moderate pressure, tension, stress or fatigue:
And, words that describe this type of person under extreme pressure, stress or fatigue:
Poor Listener Impulsive